One example of a kad who finally learned more about her past and came to know herself in the process. She posted this in the korean american adoptee forum on facebook, where there is a lot of support around kad issues, in private with only other kad. [Reprinted with permission from the author.] As a self proclaimed recovering PERFECTIONIST I can tell you, I have read a million Self Help/Development Books. A seeker…. gaining much […]
Katelyn Hemmeke is one of my favorite writers an adoption issues. She has a new research project in Korea about reunions, about which she did an interview. http://keia.org/podcast/tearful-reunion-myth-exploring-challenges-korean-adoptees-face-while-searching-their-birth-f
It’s reassuring to know Kim Dong-hwa is ok, and interesting to read about how his life turned out. Of course, we do not hear about the ones who are struggling, unless they have died, like Brazilian adoptee Joao Herbert, but we can be grateful for the good stories too. http://koreajoongangdaily.joins.com/news/article/article.aspx?aid=3029466
Light-hearted story about trying to re-learn Korean ways around Lunar New Year. Embedded in the jokes is a lot of truth. https://wethelees.wordpress.com/2017/01/24/seollal/ Is We the Lees the longest run kad blog?
This is a beautiful letter from a birth father. I think more than dreaming that one’s birth parents might be wealthy nobility, perhaps adoptees dream most about getting a letter like this – that simply states that while we were given up for adoption, we were not forgotten, and gives reassurance that we still occupy a space, hopefully a big one, in our parents’ hearts. Though i hold no hope to ever know any birth […]
As far as I know, the only one of it’s kind: a book of narratives entirely about birth searches (not all kad). Many intercountry adoptees share in this paper how useful it would have been if they had been able to seek input and guidance from those who have travelled this path before. My hope is this paper will help to alleviate this need. Search and Reunion for InterCountry Adoptees
The sentiment in the title seems so obvious, yet this insightful reflection on intercountry adoption policy in Australia tells a familiar, sad story told around the world: millions spent and lots of focus on new adoptions, nothing spent on existing adoptees. Overall by 2019, the Australian government will have spent $33.6m yet to date, not one cent has been spent on providing services for existing adult intercountry adoptees who’s numbers are far greater than the […]
Having “the conversation” with your adoptive parents that you are interested in your adoption history and possibly birth family can be a extremely anxious moment that is difficult to express. It is on the same spectrum of coming out as lgbtq to one’s family, and i have heard of families reacting just as badly to adoptees as others have to gay children. (Not trying to compare the two, just giving context.) I had a very […]
Powerful insights from @LightOfDayStory – an adoptive mother is suddenly exposed first-hand to the raw emotions of the birth mother perspective. This may be the best writing by an adoptive parent that I have ever read. https://catapult.co/stories/when-my-adopted-daughter-got-pregnant#
[Adam’s] life story highlights the failings of an adoption system that put him in the homes of one set of parents who abandoned him and another that physically abused him and other adopted children… 41-year-old Crapser arrived in Seoul, South Korea, on Thursday morning aboard a commercial airline flight escorted by ICE deportation officers. A sad, horrible moment that creates an permanent, ugly mark in the history of international adoption. More here. Meanwhile, Holt International commenced […]
